Health for Fun, or, The Point

Many of us are so consumed by what we'd like to accomplish for ourselves that we lose sight of the goal once (or while) we do that. Health and freedom from our hindrances are essential, we know that. But then what? We want to finish our work so we can enjoy the rest of the things in our lives- friends, family, hobbies, life goals.

Amidst the incessant hard work, let's take a taste of the point of it all. Take a break and call a friend whom you've been meaning to contact, spend ten minutes reading a book you keep meaning to get to, or make (or order, if you're like many of us New Yorkers) the meal you've been craving for months.

Euclid defines a straight line as the "shortest path between two points." However, what may seem like a turn off of the path is often only a necessary curve in the road, and gives us the needed momentum to reach our destinations.

The Struggle

The other day at lunch, my friends were discussing the Biblical story of Jacob. The Hebrew meaning of the name Jacob refers to the ankle of his twin that he clutched when he was born. After wrestling with an angel, (although it is sometimes looked at metaphorically as part of Jacob himself), his name was changed to Yisroel, or Israel. This name refers directly to wrestling with G-d. He was given the name because he "prevailed."

I was struck by this story because of its daily and life implications. We are so often clutching at something other than ourselves, something often relatively meaningless to others, and yet it is there that we base our lives (or our names). Only through struggling may we prevail and free ourselves from the clutches of our conscious or inadvertent surroundings.

My client is going on a trip she's been excitedly anticipating for over a year. In our phone consultation today we reviewed the pending file. She unearthed a threatening Verizon bill that she had already dealt with once, but their administration seemed to have no recollection of this.

"Oh, noooo!" she moaned, "I don't want to deal with this again!"

However, she does want to have a wonderful vacation with her husband now that she's dug herself out from the piles of paperwork she once had. We spent an hour clearing her desk, prioritizing, making a to-do list, a file pile, opening and separating the mail, recycling, shredding, and reviewing what needed to be done for her to stroll calmly onto the plane on this end and into a bathing suit on the other side. When we got ready to end our appointment, she took some deep breaths and prepared to call Verizon straightaway.

Sometimes the struggle is an annoying administrative blunder that really has nothing to do with you that you might have already dealt with repeatedly. Sometimes it's that your friends are suffering, sometimes it's a struggle even to determine just why you're struggling so.

These things don't go away, and they follow us onto planes to faraway places and ruin our vacations and our health.

Let's wrestle with them. We can prevail.

When in doubt

A man once told me of a Greek expression: Luck comes to he who works hard. He wisely paraphrased it to me, saying, "when in doubt, work hard."

And so we must.

Ending November

How delightful! I am amazed how many of you wrote to say that you "knew exactly what needed to be accomplished by the 20th of November." And that you were taking matters into your own hands (with a list)...marvelous!

The idea of all this "reorganizing for health" is health, of course. Really health. There is so much surrounding us which we cannot control, usually mixed in with things we can control. The reorganizing is about separating those things, and addressing those we can control so we can view the rest for what they are, but not for what they are not.

I mean, one of your best friends might be dying of terminal cancer, and you are devastated because there is nothing you can do. However, lying down and not paying your bills or cleaning your room or forgetting to eat does not help you or your friend. It will make everything worse, and help nothing.

Ending November versus the end of November is about addressing what you can control to be able to manage what you cannot. Pay your bills, clean your room, and eat well so that whatever happens with your friend, you will be able to deal with it honestly, not overwhelmed by your own muddle.

To health!

The End of November

One of the marketing people that crossed my path told me I should write monthly tips for my website about reorganizing. In an attempt to provide him with publishable fodder, I looked at the months of the year in terms of what was particularly relevant in terms of reorganizing. (My website has since been removed and put "under construction," a dubious state to say the least). While the site is being built and published, the monthly ideas will be here. I hope you will enjoy reading it, and offering your own advice/experiences.

There are two friends whom I speak to very frequently. We have all found that this November has been a time of administration, like it or not. The dramatic change in earlier sunset times leads us to need to finish things that require daylight by 4.15pm. Aside from accomplishments, it is colder and darker, which can certainly affect our moods. People and appointments twenty or thirty minutes away which seemed easily accessible in September or even in this pretty warm October may now seem chore-ish in this chilly and dark-early November. And that won't change for awhile.

The holidays in this country hang over us, even those who do not celebrate them. Thanksgiving dinners with families are one delight, (we hope), within a litany that includes holiday traffic, overspending, and overeating. Whether or not we participate in this ourselves, we are surrounded by plenty of heaviness. Christmas (and Chanukah) just a short month, and New Year's a week later away offers little reprieve.

So, what can we do about this? We cannot change the sunset time (although Congress can and did), nor the weather (though arguably we are doing so with our emissions, but that is for another blog), so we must make do. How?

Reorganizing, that's how.

You're all probably very "busy" now, a phrase I seem to hear more and more these days. Okay, here is your chance to feel less busy, and to lift the weight you are contributing to those around you.

Imagine December 20th, twenty five days from now. Take a deep breath for the count of four, hold it for four, and blow it out slowly for four. Now think. What is the one thing you would like to accomplish by then? We'll call it X. I'm sure there are many, but let's narrow it down to one....no, just one! Got it? Okay.

Go get a writing utensil and a biggish piece of paper. (Oh, how I sound like my mother!)

1. Write X at the bottom of the paper.

2. Write all the things that need to get done in order to accomplish X, even if they seem tiny.

3. Review list and cross out anything that does not pertain directly to X.

4. Add anything you may have thought of, however small.

5. Circle what you can do today, if anything, preferably something small.

6. Go do it!

Good luck, we'll talk tomorrow.

Off to follow my own advice,

Leah

If you'd like to let me know how it goes or would like support in your reorganizing endeavour, please email me at leah@leahfisch.com.